Marriage, Art, and Deane Again

Marriage is two artists creating.

We create together

Alone we intellectualize,

    we force

    we break from ourselves into 

        foreign and ill-fitting otherness.

Alone we free-flow without form,

    we act immediately

    we live unexamined and

        without life.

Marriage is conscious immediacy.

    Is friendship

    Is art.

        Is a scene

        Is a dance

        Is a conversation.

    Is an expression of self by means of

        the other myself.

    Is a becoming of self -

        a manifestation of self -

            by way of care for the comprehension of and 

            connection with another self.

Marriage is the promise and want to pursue the barely conceivable realization of the human universal desire to bring one never complete world of connotations, personal meaning and distinct community into communion with an entirely other incomplete and ever-becoming world of connotations, personal meaning and distinct community.

    Is two histories of humankind and the multiverse choosing consciously to honor those lives that have informed them by meeting one another.  Is also an expectation of the humanity to come, and a responsible action toward that future community that is necessarily driven by self love.  For only when one honors oneself enough to live in conscious immediacy will one know how to offer the same honor (care, interest, love) to another.  Love is a living conversation that is at the same time selfish and entirely selfless.  The one partner is required to know herself enough to be comfortable (unthreatened) with forgetting herself in another person, listening to another soul speak.  And if she can do that, then she can know herself even better.  Her cup can't overflow until it is full itself.

    By expressing the wealth that informs this one body, by reaching that existence outwards and beyond even its own horizon into the blinding sun of another wealthy world, and having that other body do precisely the same, but wholly of its own accord, only as it can understand the task in its own language, and therefore wholly unreachable in ways by the creative partner.  

    As though two alien creatures with no shared language suddenly recognize a new spectrum of colors in their own reflections, marriage is a working creation of and a movement ever towards this shared two-way mirror.